Forgiveness

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It may seem impossible to forgive someone for causing you pain but the act of forgiveness is about you and releasing ill and bad feelings toward another person. 

This does not mean that what they have done to you has not impacted you and it does not minimize the wound, it simply releases your feelings and turns them into a positive so you are not dragging that negativity forward.

Trying to move forward without releasing the bad feelings means that you are allowing the person who hurt you to continue to hurt you which has no value, in fact, it will hold you back from the positive things in your future.

If you are able to look at the situation which hurt you and find the lesson, this is the positive that you will take forward with you which is the positive and releasing the bad feelings and focusing on the positive lesson, will make you a better person.

Waiting for the person who hurt you to right the wrong. Maybe you have received an apology or maybe you haven't but in reality it doesn't matter with regards to your forgiveness.

The bottom line is, if you are holding onto negative feelings towards the person who hurt you, the reality is that nothing that they say or do is going to change the wound, that is up to you.

If you are waiting for the person to somehow take the wound away, you are waiting for something that is not possible.

The only way to move past the hurt is to learn the lesson and release bad feelings. Regardless of what the person does in the future, they cannot heal your wound.

Holding on to bad feelings toward someone for hurting you is a natural way to try to hold onto control of the situation.

No person can rewrite the past so why hold on to something that has no value to you?

You do have the power to paint your future by taking your power back and learning the lesson from the wound and releasing the bad feelings and moving forward. Your focus should always be pointing forward because it's impossible to move forward when looking backward.

When you learn the lesson and release ill will towards another person, you are taking your power back which is vital to becoming the best version of yourself. 

By gaining your power back, you are in control of your life and your future instead of dragging negativity forward and holding on to something that does not have value.

The positives have value and the negatives do not.