Find the Lesson and Find Your Power

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When something difficult lands on your doorstep, it is up to you to process it and find the lesson and the solution if one is needed before you do anything else, especially react. Any reaction before you process the situation is going to have a negative impact, if not right away, long term.

Nothing in life is all good or all bad so what you need to do when something that does not make you feel good happens, you have the power to choose how you handle it.

The key is finding the lesson. You may need to dig deep to find it, depending on the situation but a positive lesson is in there and once you find it, this will change the mindset and stop the reaction.

When you find the lesson for your situation, you are now in control of the situation and this is an idea time to start setting the standard for difficult situations and how to stop reacting to situations and start learning the lessons which is very beneficial moving forward.

You may be resistant to finding the lesson because your fixed mindset is operating from an irrational place.  To gain control of the situation you need to find the lesson because lessons are always positive, even under difficult circumstances. When you find the lesson, you find control so it's a great time to find your power.

Take a few minutes to write out the situation and then write out the lesson. That's right, write it out. The reason this is suggested is that when we write things out, it resonates differently with the brain and helps build a strong, rational foundation that keeps the negative reactions out and allows you to grow and evolve.

When you focus on the lesson, you are focusing on the positive because no matter how bad a situation is, the lesson is what you want to move forward with because you want to move forward with a rational, positive about the situation so you can make rational decisions on a solution.

If you have a tenancy to react to things before you process it and go through the process of finding the lesson and then finding a solution is, the reaction comes from an irrational place.

The reaction will not be rational because the situation has triggered something that has not been healed and the reaction is much like a young child having a tantrum. There is zero benefit from having these reactions and often times, it's causing damage or collateral damage which is always a negative and something you do not want to continue to do.